They hurt you. You hurt 'em back. Or maybe it is the other way around. Whatever. Someday you might find a way to forgive each other. But it won't be like it used to 'cause that pain never really goes away.

Brian K. Vaughan
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In the end, the only thing that matters with a broken heart is that it heals. "They hurt you. You hurt 'em back. Or maybe it is the other way around." is a common phrase used to explain how a person deals with a broken heart.

The idea of "hurtThey hurt you. You hurt 'em back." is that a person can't move on from a broken heart until they have been able to do some kind of physical damage to the person they have lost. For example, many people say that they have been unable to move on from a break-up until they have punched their ex-partner or even threatened to kill them.

In this way, physical violence is used as a way of expressing anger and pain and also as a way of making sure that the person who has hurt you doesn't get away with it.

Source: Buffy The Vampire Slayer: No Future For You

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